Feeling Bad

Hi Everyone

it has been a while since I wrote and sometime I would like to write more but then I think no one will want to read that.....so I just do not bother and at this stage I am thinking about not blogging anymore.....Lots going through my head at the moments.

First of all I think I am not being a very good wife or mother but maybe I never was in the first place.

Took my little boy to the dr today just thinking he had a bit of ear wax that was stubborn and would not come out and he asked me how long it had been that brown colour and how long he has had it. I said about a week and thought it was just a bit of wax he now tells me that he may have a serious infection in ear and will not know that until the swob he took comes back......so I feel like a great mum.....NOT.

Have joined a very different Facebook group and it has made me realise that maybe my life is not as exciting as some other people's.....in fact mine is pretty boring and very dole in comparison.....make me think I live under a rock....who hoo have my eyes been opened this past week.pm me if you want to know the group....I may just invite you to join.

My Favourite TV show BATB lets just say I am not enjoying this season as much as past ones....I will not stop watching.....but with only a 13 episode season I feel they are trying to pack so much in each episode they are missing on stuff that really need to be there....but that is just my opinion.....I guess I want more of the romance that was promised......being a huge romantic by heart I guess I need that.

Oh well,better get back to cooking the lasagne for tea and my boys are calling me to play a board game with them. Catch you soon.

E. 

Xx

I am a Hopeless Romantic

Hi
Well it has been a while since I wrote anything and to be honest with not a lot of feedback happening or anything.....I am not sure I wanted to write anything. This is the raw me and very raw it may be.

Maybe I am writing just to make myself feel better I don't really know, so if I rant and vent a bit then please feel free to tell me where to go.....I am so sick of trying to make sure everyone else is okay I have forgotten about ME. This me to a tea today....I AM.......

We have just entered in to Autumn here in Tassie and with the sudden weather change I have both boys sick and me with hayfever. So this mumma is tired and really not feeling like herself at all and personally I hate feeling this way.

So my coping when I feel like this is to

• Dancing.
• Singing very loud and badly.
• Reading romance novels.
• Lots of cuddles from my boys when they do not cough or vomit on me.....(told you long week)

 Dancing what can I say, love it I used to do as a teenage and sometime I wonder why I gave it up and there are day I regret it so much....and I know it is excuse but I have kids and I put there needs before mine and I will always do that.....

Singing....my boys always tell me I sing too much and to loud but I am not going to stop it calms me down and make me feel human again sometimes.

Reading romance novels......this I will admit is my favourite thing to do(for me) nothing like jumping in to bed when the kids are asleep and read a really good romantic story....that you can jump in to and just imagine you in the story....book boyfriend. Will also say I miss the romantic beginnings of a relationship(you know the hugs and hand holding and the little gestures that go with it) after being together for 19 years I know they will not be the same....sometimes they are there really small amounts but you know what I mean......or is it just me.

Last but not least: Cuddles from my boys: there is nothing like your children's arms around your neck,leg or any other part they can get hands around. Nothing like hearing them tell you they love you, and you will always be there first love....no matter how big they get they will always be your babies. I want to raise my boys to treat girls/ladies/women with respect and old time manners eg opening doors both on buildings and cars, pulling chairs out and picking them up at door not just beeping the horn.

Well that is my rant/vent for this week anyway. Back to dancing and singing loudly and cleaning up yucky noses and other things.

Bye for now.

Family Traditions

Hi Everyone

Has been a while since I wrote but that is because I have been sick and really I am not getting the support I thought I would.....so feel a little let down/disappointed....but that is just me.(moving on)

Anyway leading up to this festive season (ahead) I am writing about any family traditions you may have and if you are introducing any or new ones this year does not have to be about Christmas just things you do together.

I am writing this while feeding lunch to master 2 before nap time and I can not wait for the brownies that are currently cooking to be ready.....I need a brownie coma today.

So back to traditions that you do.

We have started to do Pizza Friday here....we make the pizza base(very simple recipe...pizza dough)
and then adding whatever we find in fridge or pantry.....so far it has been great. the boys are loving choosing what goes on the pizza and they are loving the base too.......I am hoping I can keep this going well in to the boys growing up and even if I am feeding a small army of friends if they are home before going out this will make me so happy...... I like to dream anyway.

Last year for Christmas we introduced an Elf on the shelf (JT Vincent) the boys loved him.....they would jump out of bed every morning to see where JT would appear. Will admit we loved to make him do naughty things as well as special things......we had just as much fun as the kids. If you do not know about the Elf on the shelf he arrives on the December 1st and every night he reports back to santa about the kids behaviour and then reappears in a different spot each morning.....sometime he get up to bad things.....example of our elf below. This will continue for a few years yet.

I also want to add that this year has just flew by my Master 5 will soon be at school 5 days and week not just 3 days and he loves school which I am so happy about.....now just got to stop the attitude and we will be right.

I am hoping to start another tradition next year that does not involve my family but my friends that we go and have lunch at least once a month.....we get so busy as mums.....we need to slow down and have that time just for us.....only need to be 2 hours......but that is my time(not going to feel guilty for it) I am even going to write it in my diary so it becomes an appointment just for me.....so if you would like to join me let me know.

So what traditions do you have or are you starting some this year....would love to hear them. 

Have a great Monday.....I am going back to my brownie coma now.....ahhhh

 
Elita xxxx

Nap/Rest Time: What do you do?

Okay so lets chat about what you do during Nap/rest time

I so LOVE nap/rest time the 2 hours I get is wonderful and I need them not only for my sanity but I think it is the only time I get to be by myself and to do anything I want and not be interrupted.

I am one of those mums who has always had a routine and my first son loved it her know what was happening and when it was going to happen. I am flexible but I would make appointments around nap/rest time even when they were babies. I spent time in the mother baby unit and learnt fairly quickly that a baby will sleep better in the same environment.....and that to me was bed.

When I only had one child and we dropped to 3 sleeps a day at 6 months I did let him sleep in the pram a few days a week as I enjoyed the walk out to my hubby and I only did that a couple of times a week.....as I found if you changed routine too much it took a few days to get back into it again.

My first son was in a single bed from 2 yr old and have never had any trouble with him coming out numerous times at night.

So when my second boy came along I found a routine worked very well with him too....I used the things I had been taught in the MBU like a newborn should only be up 1 hr before they need sleep that included feeding time....this helped to avoid overtired and I learnt very quickly an overtired baby is hard to settle and feed.

Both my boys love routine and I am so happy about that....we all do the same thing every morning as adults so why not help our children too

So will stop ranting now.

When my boys are napping or resting........yes I am one of those mums my 5 yr old still goes to his room and has a rest he will play the ipad or read, it need to be quiet and stay in his room until 2pm then he come outs

While my boys are napping and resting I am catching up on tv shows I love which means Beauty and the Beast, Arrow and Reign (all CW shows too) or I am chatting to a friend on Facebook, I eat bad food normally and enjoy a hot drink, read a book, write/read a blog(like I am doing today)  It is time for me time for my brain to switch off and not have to think about answering any questions or watching what I say. I do not do any housework...that has always been my rule and I try to encourage my friends who have children to do this too.....you need to sit and breath sometimes.

The silence to be me is great, sometime I even can sneak an extra 20 min on to nap/rest time but lately since my 5 yr old can tell the time he come out right on 2pm and we are back to it again.

What do you do during nap/rest time, do you have a sleep too or it that your house keeping time?

Let me know.......I love hearing what everyone else does

Have a great rest time....what I have left anyway 

Elita xxx

Me Time

Hi

Hope everyone's weekend was good. I had an ok one stayed at home with family which was good but this is what I usual do so nothing different here.

So today lets talk about Me time(so time just for you) as a mum do you get any?, As a wife/partner do you get any?

I will admit I miss Me Time, I love my children to bits but I do miss sometimes just sitting down with a friend for a huge catch up or just jumping in the car and going somewhere without have to thing about nap or bedtime.

I will always put my children first and that is the way it should be to me. when I think about where I come on the list......."thinking"......yeah that's me at the bottom.(kids, hubby ,me) not sure if that is silly or not but I think that is the way I feel and always have.

 

So if you could have anytime (for you left in the day) what would you do with it? What do you enjoy doing when you get some time just for you?

I love to read(trashy romantic novels), I enjoy card making(not good at it, but worth a try), a nice glass of wine and if I have the opportunity I love a beauty treatment(even if now I tint my own eyelashes at home) a good meal with friends who understand you is always great too.


To make myself sound silly. I also think it is important to have time for you so you can come back refreshed and for some reason you feel happier too(well I know I do). Do I sound unreasonable my hubby goes to work all day so he gets a break from the children and I am there 24 hrs a day. Just once a week an hour to myself would be great.....I am happy for it to be broke down in to 30 min lots if that is easier. "It takes a village to raise a family" love this quote and I first heard it when I was in the mother baby unit with my first. I now make a point to be there for my friends with new babies particularly under 12 weeks old as I remember it was hard and all such a blur. I do not have a mum I can drop my children off too or even just flake it on her couch for a quick cuppa (my mum passed away nearly 10 yrs ago, and I miss her, everyday)... I think because my youngest son is going through the terrible 2 I am feel this loss of me time. and when I do take some me time I feel so guilty for it......Does anyone else feel like this?

So lets make a plan to do something for ourselves this week, write it in the diary or on the calendar. I need to start looking after me too and must keep this quote close by.

Have a great day everyone

Elita xxx

 

P.S Found this article the morning that seems right for this post. anyone else nodding their head to it.

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Mumma Guilt

Hi everyone

Today I am writing about mumma guilt. It has taken me 5 yrs to feel it but all I can say is "dislike it a lot"

I feel like crap. I have the man flu (that hubby passed on to me) and master 5 was home from school yesterday with a temp and one chesty cough.(I am that mum today who you say should have keep child at home)

Today I sent him to school and I feel so guilty for it (sorry to classmates, if they get sick) we went to the dr yesterday at 10am and by the time we got in the car after being told he had a viral thing. He asked for McDonalds for lunch (which we had because he had waited well for 45 min to see dr for a 5 min appointment) and then after rest time he ran around the backyard for an hr playing with his brother.

So I decided if he could do that he would be right for school. (did wake up with a small temp which had come down before school) so I dosed him up with neurofen and sent him to school.

I will be the mum waiting at school gate with Panadol in hand ready to dose him again.....feel like a bad mum and guilt is unbelievable.

He wanted to go to school to see his friends he was so excited who am I to say he could not go...I know I am his mum and I should put my foot down but to be honest I could use a rest so I can get better too. He has a book week walk tomorrow and would be so upset to miss it.....worst mum ever I would be

So I am sorry to his classmates and I guess I am sitting here waiting for a phone call to collect him from school......before my little man nap time.

So anyone else had the mumma guilts and what did you do to get them confession time?

xx