Ideas please?

Hi Everyone


Today I am looking for some advice on what top I should wear with the skirt in the picture.
I need it to be plane friendly as I will be travelling to Melbourne for the day to attend a wedding, now apparently it is a very low key affair, but I would like to be comfortably but dressed appropriately as I will be doing lots of sitting in planes and trains.


I am wearing my knee high black boots for warmth and as you will not see them anyway, I will not need to take another pair of shoes.

So what top would you wear with this skirt(yes like the top in picture, but was trying to hide my mummy tummy so really do not want to tuck in to skirt)


Thank you for the advice in advance, will let you know what I choose.


Look forward to hearing your suggestions.

xx E

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

I am a Hopeless Romantic

Hi
Well it has been a while since I wrote anything and to be honest with not a lot of feedback happening or anything.....I am not sure I wanted to write anything. This is the raw me and very raw it may be.

Maybe I am writing just to make myself feel better I don't really know, so if I rant and vent a bit then please feel free to tell me where to go.....I am so sick of trying to make sure everyone else is okay I have forgotten about ME. This me to a tea today....I AM.......

We have just entered in to Autumn here in Tassie and with the sudden weather change I have both boys sick and me with hayfever. So this mumma is tired and really not feeling like herself at all and personally I hate feeling this way.

So my coping when I feel like this is to

• Dancing.
• Singing very loud and badly.
• Reading romance novels.
• Lots of cuddles from my boys when they do not cough or vomit on me.....(told you long week)

 Dancing what can I say, love it I used to do as a teenage and sometime I wonder why I gave it up and there are day I regret it so much....and I know it is excuse but I have kids and I put there needs before mine and I will always do that.....

Singing....my boys always tell me I sing too much and to loud but I am not going to stop it calms me down and make me feel human again sometimes.

Reading romance novels......this I will admit is my favourite thing to do(for me) nothing like jumping in to bed when the kids are asleep and read a really good romantic story....that you can jump in to and just imagine you in the story....book boyfriend. Will also say I miss the romantic beginnings of a relationship(you know the hugs and hand holding and the little gestures that go with it) after being together for 19 years I know they will not be the same....sometimes they are there really small amounts but you know what I mean......or is it just me.

Last but not least: Cuddles from my boys: there is nothing like your children's arms around your neck,leg or any other part they can get hands around. Nothing like hearing them tell you they love you, and you will always be there first love....no matter how big they get they will always be your babies. I want to raise my boys to treat girls/ladies/women with respect and old time manners eg opening doors both on buildings and cars, pulling chairs out and picking them up at door not just beeping the horn.

Well that is my rant/vent for this week anyway. Back to dancing and singing loudly and cleaning up yucky noses and other things.

Bye for now.

ME time and FSOG

Hi Everyone

It has been 2 weeks since my last post and I am not sure what that is maybe because I have kids still on school holidays here and I have been spending time with them...or maybe I did not think I had anything interesting to say to you.....

Remember one of my goals for this year was to do something just for me once a month, take better care of me.....that way I can take care of my boys and be happier too.....so the month of February I am.........

Well first of all I am going to warn you about this post some people will like it some people will hate it and not want to read it but oh well I am still happy to hear negative thoughts on it.

I will admit in the last week I have become obsessed with FSOG (Fifty Shades Of Grey) yes the book and the movie due out in 17 days(yes on countdown here) I love it and when I need a pick me up I will watch a tv spot(30second) and then I am back to happy me. I really do not know why

So confess who has read the books? Did you make it through all 3 or did you stop and never went back.

When I first saw who was playing Christian and Anastasia I was not impressed and I through I will just wait until it come out on DVD to see it. But after watching Jamie in OUAT (Once upon a time season 1 episodes 1-7) I thought he would be good, then the trailers came out and I went okay but the more I watched the trailers the more I want to see, he has the looks and the smothering eyes to  match what I through Christian would be like.

Now I can not stop watching the trailers and tv spots, have seen heaps of interviews where they talk about the film and other things. I have my tickets to gold class to see it, if anyone wants to join me(taking hubby as well) then that fine the more the merrier.

It has been a while since I have felt this excited about something and I think this is great......might be a bit obsessed but I say whatever make me look forward to something as a mum then I am happy.

I will go on the defence of the books and say yes the writing is not at good but I loved it, and there are people out there who say it is 'mummy porn' well it might be but when I read all 3 of the books I soon realise that Anastasia did not have to do any of the things she did she was in control of the situation, she also helped Christian to see what he really needed and that people do not abandon you when you need them the most. Anastasia showed Christian very early on that he was special and she was not going to take crap from him. If I can teach one thing to my children it would be empathy and assertiveness which is what I see when I read these books. Some people might see something else......what do you think of them?  

Will include a trailer and one of my favourite tv spots for you to check out.....please let me know what you think?

International Trailer

One of the tv spots...............so hard to choose one


So let me know what you think of all of this hype.....me personally so excited.

Later  xxx

First week of my 2015 Goals

Hi everyone

I hope you have all had a great week.

My week has been a little up and down and feeling a little emotional but has been good despite that.

 Had been busy as usual enjoying the school holidays with my boys. My oldest son has had a few days away with his grandparents which has been great and lovely and quiet....and I have not had to answer any questions which seem to be all he does lately and if I do not have the answers or tell him that I will get the answer for him then he reminds me if I forget. I love how he want to know things but he asks me things even sometimes I would not even think he understands.

I must admit when he returned after 2 days he asked a lot so he made up for the time that he was not with me but then the behaviour went a bit off the show and he has been quite rude and demanding which is a little hard to take but that is ok he did get a lot of one on one when he was away and now he has to put up with sharing and waiting until I am not too busy to get him what he wanted.

 I have started my plans for this year I am so happy about that. I have a note in the front of my diary that reminds me of my goals for this year and I plan to stick to them.

I went out for a great lunch yesterday with some wonderful ladies, we laughed, talked and shared secrets as well as a lovely glass of wine and a great long lunch which I miss so much after having the children.

We went to a lovely little restaurant in Sandy Bay. It had a great menu and great atmosphere. It was just so fantastic to get out without the kids and have some adult girly time. Now I just need to make a date for next months lunch somewhere just as nice......so any ladies want to join just let me know we are always looking for new friends and if you need to get away from the family for a few hours then you are welcome to join us.

This morning I also started to exercise more, have taken a photo of what I was pushing. I had the pram, boy in pram and my oldest son on the skateboard attached to the pram. .....so a good amount of weight I pushed for 30 min. The oldest son took some photos so he would not get too bored.

I am even going to do a yoga program I found for my iPad called fit star yoga when the boys have a sleep and rest it is free and guides you through the program will let you know how that goes.Then I might just sit in the sun and read a book for a while after I book my tickets to see "Fifty shades of grey".......that's important right...

Love this blog post on Fat Mum Slim today 15-ordinary-things-2015/ Have a look at it see what you think.

Well signing off as I am writing this while playing with the kids at the park. Have a great week.

Xx

Goals for 2015....What are yours?

So here it is my first blog post for 2015.

I really was not sure if I was going to write anymore posts as I was not getting any real feedback, but I decided to continue this as it is a way I can document things that happen even if it is just for my boys to read later in life or something for me to look back on.

So 2015 I am hoping/planning will be a great year and a year that I also look after me as well as my boys.

This year I plan and hoping to achieve:

• Some regular girly time (which I am starting this weekend)
• Look at studying (certificate 3 in education support)
• One on one time with my children (mummy son dates)
• Some more exercise
• De-clutter my house (may be dreaming with this one)

Don't get me wrong I will always put my children before my own needs but I am going to give it a shot to do both, my boys are older enough now that I can leave them and they know I will come back. And I find when I get even a few hours away from them I find the tolerance level is much better and I get a thousand questions about what I did or have been when I return.

I also need to take some time and spend one on one with my boys...they are growing up so fast. I have a boy who is in prep this year and to be honest I can not believe that....school 5 days a week ...WOW....that also means I need to do the school runs 5 days and week and would it be weird to say I am looking forward to it....I love how he seems to love telling me what happened at school and how excited he is to see me....and I am hoping that will never change.....but deep down I know it will.....so I guess I am enjoying it while I can. The other thing is I am a member of an amazing playgroup or Launch into Learning program with my other son....we are like a family and it is truly wonderful.

I am scared to go back in to study I have not studied in so long and not sure I even remember how to anymore and I know that sounds silly, sometime I am in two frames of mind whether I can do it or not and I do not even know if I would get a job at the end of it....but if I can find the course that will fit in with my family then I would give it a go, also the right price(which I found to be so expensive online and I probably need to do that for now as classroom setting would not suit the family)

Well that was bigger then I thought it would be for the start of 2015. Let me know if you have any goals for 2015 maybe we can help each other achieve some of them. Mumma's need to help each other. Have a great week

Chat soon.

 

Family Traditions

Hi Everyone

Has been a while since I wrote but that is because I have been sick and really I am not getting the support I thought I would.....so feel a little let down/disappointed....but that is just me.(moving on)

Anyway leading up to this festive season (ahead) I am writing about any family traditions you may have and if you are introducing any or new ones this year does not have to be about Christmas just things you do together.

I am writing this while feeding lunch to master 2 before nap time and I can not wait for the brownies that are currently cooking to be ready.....I need a brownie coma today.

So back to traditions that you do.

We have started to do Pizza Friday here....we make the pizza base(very simple recipe...pizza dough)
and then adding whatever we find in fridge or pantry.....so far it has been great. the boys are loving choosing what goes on the pizza and they are loving the base too.......I am hoping I can keep this going well in to the boys growing up and even if I am feeding a small army of friends if they are home before going out this will make me so happy...... I like to dream anyway.

Last year for Christmas we introduced an Elf on the shelf (JT Vincent) the boys loved him.....they would jump out of bed every morning to see where JT would appear. Will admit we loved to make him do naughty things as well as special things......we had just as much fun as the kids. If you do not know about the Elf on the shelf he arrives on the December 1st and every night he reports back to santa about the kids behaviour and then reappears in a different spot each morning.....sometime he get up to bad things.....example of our elf below. This will continue for a few years yet.

I also want to add that this year has just flew by my Master 5 will soon be at school 5 days and week not just 3 days and he loves school which I am so happy about.....now just got to stop the attitude and we will be right.

I am hoping to start another tradition next year that does not involve my family but my friends that we go and have lunch at least once a month.....we get so busy as mums.....we need to slow down and have that time just for us.....only need to be 2 hours......but that is my time(not going to feel guilty for it) I am even going to write it in my diary so it becomes an appointment just for me.....so if you would like to join me let me know.

So what traditions do you have or are you starting some this year....would love to hear them. 

Have a great Monday.....I am going back to my brownie coma now.....ahhhh

 
Elita xxxx

What does this mumma want to be?

Hi Everyone

Sorry it has been a while have had hubby home for a few weeks from work so bit hard to write with him looking over my shoulder, we have been away as a family, and also my master 2 has not been sleeping.....so mumma reached a breaking point and needed to step back a bit.


This post may be long or short depending on how much I waffle on.

Lately while I have been away I have done a bit of thinking...what mother does not do that most of the time....this thinking has been about ME and what I would like to do when my boys are both at school.

It started when a friend asked me what I wanted to do when the boys went to school and to be honest with master 2 not sleeping at night I could not see past the next night....but when I sat down with coffee in hand and actually thought about it I came up very blank.....I had nothing....what is my dream.....I am trying to teach my boys to always dream and follow them......but their mum was not or did not have any dreams of her own......so what a great teacher/mum was I.

My dream was to have children (as I had cancer I did not think I would get that) so now I have my wonderful amazing children what now for my dreams......I have no idea where to start.

So here I am sitting writing a list of what I would like to do when I no longer have my children at home with me all day. I have decided I would like to do a job that is school hours so I can still be there with my children during school holidays(they grow up so quick, I do not want to miss anything...is that selfish of me?)

I used to work in child care before the children came along I was thinking I would like to go back in to something in relation to watching children grow and develop, there is nothing like seeing faces when they finally get something......it is wonderful.

I have the perfect job idea. I want to do Teachers Aide. Now where to start with that I have no idea, have looked at courses to get my certificate 3 in Education support but they are all to expensive for this stay at home mum....so I might need to think a bit more. Any suggestions?

Well while I think I better get back to folding the washing.

Have a great day

Elita xxx

Bit of everything today

Hi Everyone

Hope your weekend was good, mine was great.

Well for today's post it is a bit of everything, I am feeling so proud of myself and I will explain that later.

So let begin at the weekend so this weekend was the AFL Grand final here in Australia and my husbands team was playing so I can tell you that our tv was on from 9 am and was not turned off until after 8pm that night. We had a few drinks and sat back to enjoy the day (anyone in America to us in Australia it would be the same as your super bowl weekend) it really was a one sided game in the end with the Hawthorn hawks wining.....back to back premierships. So one very happy husband and he was like that all weekend. got lots of job done off the to do list as he was so happy he just did them.

I did lots of baking yesterday. cooked brownies, pizza for tea and rolls. it was a busy day in my kitchen but so much fun, lots of mess and flour on tops, floor and carpet. Will remember the day for the fun we had.

Today is the start of school holidays here and lets just say my children are all over the emotional scale. one minute happy one minute fighting and very loud. My 5 yr old need to be entertained so I have made a jar with different things to do in it to keep him entertained seems to be working so far. My 2 yr old is loving having his big brother home but that also means he has to share and try not to annoy his brother which I can say he is loving doing to him.

We are going to do a planner after rest/sleep time so we know what we are doing and so my 5 yr old know when we are going out or staying home. Also so this mum can see when she needs money and when she doesn't as I have found school holidays can be expensive if I let it be.

So to my proud moment today. better tell you back story first. my son's ipad was still running ios 6 ( I know who is still running that, needed to delete games and did not have the heart to do that too them) so today I thought I could update via the computer would not take ups so many MB's so I deleted a few things not that my son's know yet. And like you do I googled how to do it.

As I was hooking the ipad up I was hoping it would work and thinking please do not lose all the games or I think I would have very upset children to deal with. my first hurdle was the fact was the ipad was not charging but syncing fine so after googling that we moved on to the next step.

So after an hour and a half finally the ipad is updated with the lastest ios 8 and my boys is happy as he can finally watch iview as it was not working before...so mum fixed it and now I have one happy boy the things we do for our children......very proud mummy and a HUGE Thank you to google.....I know I would be lost doing something like that without it.

Off to open a few parcels that came for me today. one with scrapbooking cards in it.....love getting parcels...... in fact if anyone is interested in joining me I have joined up for the Fat Mum Slim gift exchange. Here is the link: http://fatmumslim.com.au/fat-mum-slim-gift-exchange-2014-join-us/ if you want to join me I think it is a fantastic idea to brighten someone's Christmas up. So who is joining me would love to know.

Hope you all have a great day and school holidays to everyone in Tasmania.
Elita

xxx

Time for me

Hi everyone

Hope your weekend was good.

This week I have started a couple of new things that are just for me.

Do not get me wrong. I am so grateful for my husband and children but when someone asked me my dreams the other week I could not tell them anything. I have a bucket list which I am starting to cross things off of you all know that I have a post written about it. I spent the next few days thinking about a dream and come up with nothing.......so I thought maybe it was time to find me the women behind 3 children(yes I include hubby in that too)

I love my children to the moon and back and so much more, but somewhere in trying to be a good mum and wife, looking after my children.......I think I lost me the women. I find myself getting grumpy quickly and have a very short fuse for things that should not brother me.

So for the next month this is what I am doing to find me again, the fun me.

http://www.abundantmama.com/

I am planning on becoming an Abundant mama. I came across this website by accident one day and I read some of her blog post and I found myself nodding with them....then I noticed she ran an e-course so I read what she is cover and I will admit I sat on the decision for over 2 weeks which is not like me at all......mummy guilt about wether I should spend it on me or am I just being silly.

I thought what harm can it do and so I went for it. So if I am not here much I am finding me the fun mumma I want to be again. My children deserve that after all it will not be long before they will not want me around on the weekend.....but that is a whole different post.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this. Feel free to leave comment.

Have a great Monday.

Elita xx

OMG why did i not try this earlier?

Hi Everyone

Hope everyone is having a great day.

Short quick post today.

I have found the best way to do a bun works on short and longer hair now tell me who does not have a sock at home with holes in toes. Chop the toes off and make a sock bun so easy. will put tutorial up so you can see how to do it so amazing and easy to do.

Here is the tutorial so easy and looks great.

I also learnt today that marshmallows will help a sore throat(not sure how but my husband tried this one out and said that it worked suggested by doctor to him)

So this there anything that you have tried that has made your life easier or any tips you would like to share.....Please feel free to share them. I am always looking for new tips and short cuts to try.

Look forward to hearing from you soon

Elita xx

Articles i love this week

Hi everyone
Just want to say Thank you to everyone who has left comments or has started to follow me lately, please feel free to share with friends and continue to let me know what you feel about my posts.

These are some of the things I love this week, let me know what you think of them.

five-ways-to-be-more-intentional-mom/ This is so me I seem to rush around and get everything done and then remember I have not spend the quality time my children need, must remember to slow down as mums and wives we are all guilty of this.

6-ways-to-have-a-happier-life-with-kids
 I love this article. Some of the things in remind me that yes maybe we do need to slow down a bit.......will say I love my routine and my kids seem to love it too.

looking-after-mum-me-time/
This is a great idea, we should all do this for each other. We all deserve a little me time.

/after-school-behaviour
Is it just my boy or do they seem to be a little out of control when they come home from school, my boys seems to push all my buttons and this seems to be the time he knows I will get upset with him but still he does it I quite often get "I listened all day at school, it is hard to do at home" it seems the moment we walk in the door my lovable well mannered boy stays outside. Maybe it is just me.

I am not the best parent will admit to that.....will be writing about that soon. Enjoy the rest of your hump day

Elita xx

What I love this week.

Hi
Here are some the articles I am enjoying this week. Hope everyone is having a fantastic Sunday and you get some time to check these out with a cup of tea/coffee

Some of these are so funny. Will admit I have used a few of the below excuses when I have been late. The car keys and phone one come to mind quite a lot.
33-reasons-moms-late/


We all need to do this, now which one to choose, let me know which one you have chosen todaynot just for mums but all women.
Affirmations for mums.


Isn't this always the way
-26-murphys-laws-parenting/


what-every-teacher-wants-you-to-know-but-wont-tell-you/  these are great.


These are great and make a lot of sense.
change-perspective-stop-kid-tantrums/


Let me know what you think of them.

Happy reading (I know I nodded a lot to these)

Bye for now.

Bucket List

Hi
After my last post these are something I thought about while having chemotherapy and decided I needed something else to think about so I started my list.

Yes I am still young but I have a bucket list. so of the things on it I have achieved some I will achieve a little later in life. These are not only things I want to do but dreams and I am always working towards my dreams.

Bucket List

• Have a best friend who does not let me down.
• Feel breathless from a kiss.
• Name a star.
• Own a husky.
• Surprise party thrown for me.
• Kiss in the rain.
• Take a cute photo in photo booth with someone.
• Have a baby.
• Be called mummy.
• Take the kids on amazing holiday.
• Watch children get married.
• Be the best parents we can be.
• Be kissed unexpectedly. 
• Wear couture.
• Be woken with a kiss.
• Visit set of my favourite show (BATB, Toronto,Canada).
• Experience paradise.
• Be a bridesmaid.
• Go to a Masquerade ball.
• Go on a cruise.
• Let go of a floating lantern.
• Become an inspiration .
• Stay in a penthouse.
• Send a letter to a random address and see if they write back.

 The most impotant one: Actually do my bucket list.


So do you have bucket list and what is on yours. would love to hear some of the things you have on yours.

Have a great day.

what i am liking today

Hi everyone

Thought today I would write a post about things I am loving and that have caught my eye recently. I love to read what other people think of parenting and then take what I like from them. so these are the articles I am loving this week.

http://www.kidspot.com.au/on-the-days-i-struggle-the-most-with-my-little-ones/


http://www.thirtyhandmadedays.com/2014/08/kid-approved-lunch-box-snack-ideas/


http://goodmenproject.com/good-feed-blog/25-rules-for-moms-with-sons/ this one is my favourite it has some great ideas for us mumma's with boys

I am also in to spending time with each child to make sure they know I love them, I made a vow when I had children that I would take them for special treats and make sure they know how much I love them and also give them time to talk to me about anything that is bothering them.

Very simple things seem to make my boys happy. I love that.

Well better be off the boys are taking me for coffee/Hot chocolate and a chat today.....after I take them to the library.

Have a great day.