Time for me

Hi everyone

Hope your weekend was good.

This week I have started a couple of new things that are just for me.

Do not get me wrong. I am so grateful for my husband and children but when someone asked me my dreams the other week I could not tell them anything. I have a bucket list which I am starting to cross things off of you all know that I have a post written about it. I spent the next few days thinking about a dream and come up with nothing.......so I thought maybe it was time to find me the women behind 3 children(yes I include hubby in that too)

I love my children to the moon and back and so much more, but somewhere in trying to be a good mum and wife, looking after my children.......I think I lost me the women. I find myself getting grumpy quickly and have a very short fuse for things that should not brother me.

So for the next month this is what I am doing to find me again, the fun me.

http://www.abundantmama.com/

I am planning on becoming an Abundant mama. I came across this website by accident one day and I read some of her blog post and I found myself nodding with them....then I noticed she ran an e-course so I read what she is cover and I will admit I sat on the decision for over 2 weeks which is not like me at all......mummy guilt about wether I should spend it on me or am I just being silly.

I thought what harm can it do and so I went for it. So if I am not here much I am finding me the fun mumma I want to be again. My children deserve that after all it will not be long before they will not want me around on the weekend.....but that is a whole different post.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this. Feel free to leave comment.

Have a great Monday.

Elita xx

Weekly Eye Candy

Hi

Must be Friday TGIF.

So straight on to todays eye candy to help your Friday pass that little bit quicker.

So tell me who has not wanted to run their hands down this stomach.

Well do I need to introduce him....okay I will for those who may have head under a rock this is Channing Tatum so may have seen him in She's the Man, Magic Mike(will say looking forward Magic Mike 2) These are a fine set of yummy but I still prefer the Beast from BATB but I am little obsessed with that show.....as some of you know.

Now for the suit picture, I love a man in a suit so will be always adding a picture of the boys in a suit.

So are we happy with todays Eye candy....maybe I might add one more thing for you

Please enjoy on this Friday.



Have a great weekend....I am off on a Friday drive to the country.

Elita xx

 

 

 

 

 

 

OMG why did i not try this earlier?

Hi Everyone

Hope everyone is having a great day.

Short quick post today.

I have found the best way to do a bun works on short and longer hair now tell me who does not have a sock at home with holes in toes. Chop the toes off and make a sock bun so easy. will put tutorial up so you can see how to do it so amazing and easy to do.

Here is the tutorial so easy and looks great.

I also learnt today that marshmallows will help a sore throat(not sure how but my husband tried this one out and said that it worked suggested by doctor to him)

So this there anything that you have tried that has made your life easier or any tips you would like to share.....Please feel free to share them. I am always looking for new tips and short cuts to try.

Look forward to hearing from you soon

Elita xx

What is it with Men sometimes......

Hi

Hope everyone had a great weekend, mine was the same old, I did go to a great linen party on Saturday so that was nice to get out of the house kids free for a little while at least.

Well today I am talking about Males in particular Mechanics.AHHHHH

I took my car to the mechanics this morning after I was told that my normal mechanic could not fix the problem as he had never change one on my little Proton.....so I had to take it to the proper Proton mechanic to fix.....so I call up and was told the part I need would have to be freighted in from Melbourne so that was ok and everything so I would have to wait to get my car fix but it was still drivable so away I went everyday until today.

Was told to drop it in a 8am so the whole family had to be out the door by 7:30am we got in there before 8 and then 8am came and went 15 minutes later the mechanic decides to show up, up until them the gate was locked and bolted.

When I pass the keys over to him he look at me like I am crazy and ask "dropping off" I told him "yes was told to drop off at 8am and now my husband is late for work" my answer was " I had to do a school drop off so that is why I am late" explained that need the car back my 2pm so I could do the school pick up. I get "you know what's wrong with it" I tell him that it,is a leak at the back of water pump whether it is water pump not hose not sure. "call me if problem" I leave the car with him and am thinking great he does not know what he is doing.

Then he tell me that he may not have it ready and that he would call my husband when ready.....WTF.........I just said to call me and that I need it for a school run. Because I am a women do I look silly. I seem to get this once a week where men think women are silly the other day it was an elderly gentleman who push in front of me when I had the pram and I knock his heel I said sorry but all I got was young mums of today just pushing out babies to get money......then he looked down and saw my wedding band and just suddenly stopped what he was saying.

Well that is my vent.....might just ring the mechanic and see how he is going with it. Wish me luck.

Does anyone else seem to cope this sometimes or if you have a whinge you would like to have about Males in general, would love to hear it today. Vent away.

Hope everyone is having a great day.

Elita xx

Weekly Eye Candy

Hi
Must be Friday again so let get straight in to it

So this weeks eye candy is:

Mr Stephen Amell none other then CW's Arrow. That towel looks like it need to go.
nothing like a man in a suit that is a must and he pulls it off very well.

And for all the mums. A man spending time with his daughter is perfect to me and he love to do things with her he quite often dresses her up and take her to major sporting events to support their team.

 Have a great weekend everyone

Elita xx

Nap/Rest Time: What do you do?

Okay so lets chat about what you do during Nap/rest time

I so LOVE nap/rest time the 2 hours I get is wonderful and I need them not only for my sanity but I think it is the only time I get to be by myself and to do anything I want and not be interrupted.

I am one of those mums who has always had a routine and my first son loved it her know what was happening and when it was going to happen. I am flexible but I would make appointments around nap/rest time even when they were babies. I spent time in the mother baby unit and learnt fairly quickly that a baby will sleep better in the same environment.....and that to me was bed.

When I only had one child and we dropped to 3 sleeps a day at 6 months I did let him sleep in the pram a few days a week as I enjoyed the walk out to my hubby and I only did that a couple of times a week.....as I found if you changed routine too much it took a few days to get back into it again.

My first son was in a single bed from 2 yr old and have never had any trouble with him coming out numerous times at night.

So when my second boy came along I found a routine worked very well with him too....I used the things I had been taught in the MBU like a newborn should only be up 1 hr before they need sleep that included feeding time....this helped to avoid overtired and I learnt very quickly an overtired baby is hard to settle and feed.

Both my boys love routine and I am so happy about that....we all do the same thing every morning as adults so why not help our children too

So will stop ranting now.

When my boys are napping or resting........yes I am one of those mums my 5 yr old still goes to his room and has a rest he will play the ipad or read, it need to be quiet and stay in his room until 2pm then he come outs

While my boys are napping and resting I am catching up on tv shows I love which means Beauty and the Beast, Arrow and Reign (all CW shows too) or I am chatting to a friend on Facebook, I eat bad food normally and enjoy a hot drink, read a book, write/read a blog(like I am doing today)  It is time for me time for my brain to switch off and not have to think about answering any questions or watching what I say. I do not do any housework...that has always been my rule and I try to encourage my friends who have children to do this too.....you need to sit and breath sometimes.

The silence to be me is great, sometime I even can sneak an extra 20 min on to nap/rest time but lately since my 5 yr old can tell the time he come out right on 2pm and we are back to it again.

What do you do during nap/rest time, do you have a sleep too or it that your house keeping time?

Let me know.......I love hearing what everyone else does

Have a great rest time....what I have left anyway 

Elita xxx

Me Time

Hi

Hope everyone's weekend was good. I had an ok one stayed at home with family which was good but this is what I usual do so nothing different here.

So today lets talk about Me time(so time just for you) as a mum do you get any?, As a wife/partner do you get any?

I will admit I miss Me Time, I love my children to bits but I do miss sometimes just sitting down with a friend for a huge catch up or just jumping in the car and going somewhere without have to thing about nap or bedtime.

I will always put my children first and that is the way it should be to me. when I think about where I come on the list......."thinking"......yeah that's me at the bottom.(kids, hubby ,me) not sure if that is silly or not but I think that is the way I feel and always have.

 

So if you could have anytime (for you left in the day) what would you do with it? What do you enjoy doing when you get some time just for you?

I love to read(trashy romantic novels), I enjoy card making(not good at it, but worth a try), a nice glass of wine and if I have the opportunity I love a beauty treatment(even if now I tint my own eyelashes at home) a good meal with friends who understand you is always great too.


To make myself sound silly. I also think it is important to have time for you so you can come back refreshed and for some reason you feel happier too(well I know I do). Do I sound unreasonable my hubby goes to work all day so he gets a break from the children and I am there 24 hrs a day. Just once a week an hour to myself would be great.....I am happy for it to be broke down in to 30 min lots if that is easier. "It takes a village to raise a family" love this quote and I first heard it when I was in the mother baby unit with my first. I now make a point to be there for my friends with new babies particularly under 12 weeks old as I remember it was hard and all such a blur. I do not have a mum I can drop my children off too or even just flake it on her couch for a quick cuppa (my mum passed away nearly 10 yrs ago, and I miss her, everyday)... I think because my youngest son is going through the terrible 2 I am feel this loss of me time. and when I do take some me time I feel so guilty for it......Does anyone else feel like this?

So lets make a plan to do something for ourselves this week, write it in the diary or on the calendar. I need to start looking after me too and must keep this quote close by.

Have a great day everyone

Elita xxx

 

P.S Found this article the morning that seems right for this post. anyone else nodding their head to it.

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