Book Nerd......ME

Hi everyone

As I sit here in front of my nice cosy fire watching Play school with my youngest boy on the couch I thought I would write a quick blog post.

I am just enjoying a nice quiet moment today with my little man, he has a cold and so do I which I need to get over before next week as I am off for Day surgery next Wednesday, nothing major just a a very small operation so I hope I will be out by school pick up.

Well back to what I was going to write about. You all know I am a hopeless romantic I have told you about my book boyfriends before.

That has not changed I am really loving the downtime of a nice to escape to my book boyfriends after a full day with my 2 boys. One of them turns 3 in a 16 days then the fun starts with toilet training and everything like that. Think my body needs to just escape and relax and just jump right in to a different world where the boys gets the girl and he pours his heart out....maybe that is something I want to teach my boys to never be afraid of tell someone how you feel.....I have no idea. I muddle through each day and no idea what I am doing most of the time....oh well....see off the topic again.

My escape generally is romantic book with lots of strong men and heroes generally boy saves girl and does the courting of her.....I really am a hopeless romantic......

I am currently reading the 'Men of honour' series by KC Lynn this series was recommended to me by one of my Beastie friends and I love it, so easy to read and I am currently on the third book and this one has slowed me down as I need my tissues nearly every chapter, hubby thinks I have lost the plot.

I also love Bella Andre and Melissa Foster they have some great series very easy to read and pick up put down which is what this mummy needs, as for for some reason I get interrupted heaps.

So what do you like to read?

While I am writing I throughly I would also mention that lately I am getting a lot of questions from people asking me what I will be trying to have a girl, particularly when I say we have 2 boys...why do people ask that I have 2 children that is enough for me. Yes the thought of me not picking our graduation dresses,wedding dresses or holding their hand while they give birth does make me sad, but I found an article lately that I love. So here it is and for all mums of just boys I understand how you may feel sometimes.

Mother of only boys.

So until next time

Thank you for reading my rant.

Elita

Lonely mum

Hi Everyone

I have had this post sitting for a couple of days and I am still wondering if it should be posted or not and whether anyone will take offence to it.....and I am sorry if you do it is not my intent at all.

But I have a friend who keeps telling me not to care what other think and so I am going to take her advice.....thank miss Melbourne person....you know who you are.

I would like to say Thank you to my friends and those people who have become family as they have been there for me.....many of you do not live close by or I will never meet.

This is something I have been thinking lately and it may not be a big deal to anyone else or they may not feel it or maybe they do....will have to wait and see.

I am a lonely mum......I have friends but for some reason I still feel lonely and I can not put my finger on the reason why.

Maybe as most of my mummy friends work either part time or full time and simply do not have enough time to spend together as they are very busy with the whole work/family balance and I can completely understand why they do not have the time.....and just between you and me why would they want to hear about my day at home doing the boring stuff when they have been trying to get everything cooked and cleaned with the time they have.....I also have all day to get that stuff done where they maybe trying to do it all in a 2 hr window.

I very rarely go out and if I do I always think about the kids and hubby first....I do not do spontaneous things ever......don't get me wrong I will always put my kids and hubby first I do not know a mum who does not. That is why I decided that once a month I would do something for me....but it is always planned around family and hubby's activities.

Maybe I also feel this way because I do not have a mum to call whenever it get tough, so I battle through on my own,as I do not want to bother friends and often by the time they have replied to messages I have sorted it out and moved on.

It probably stems back to me being an only child so I had to grow up quickly and have self resilience from an early age....no one to bounce things off of and let's face it.....what teenage bounced ideas off there parents.

So does anyone else feel that way you do not need to be a mum you can just be a women who seem to have a herd of people around them but still feel lonely or am I just being crazy....be honest I can take it.

Here is an article I found interesting to read.
/are-you-lonely-mama

Until next post.

Xx

What door do you choose?

Hi everyone

I am writing this while the kids play happily around me(not sure how long that will last for) Easter/Term 1 school holidays here and will say I am missing the routine of school and what I need to do each day. But that is not what this blog post is about.

I found something on another blog that I follow and it left me wondering what I really think about me and how hard we are on ourselves as women.

I have the put the video here for you to have a look at:



So what do you think?

I personally would choose to walk away I could not choose any door as I do not see myself as beautiful or average I am not sure what I am to be honest. I have always been on the larger size and I have a pretty big butt, small waist. Yes think Kim Kardashian butt.

So whenever I lose weight I lose it from my waist first which make my butt look bigger oh the joys of life. And somehow I always lose motivation to continue as I do not have a friend to push me and personal training would be great but is too expensive for this stay at home mum.

I also have never been told I was beautiful so I guess I do not believe it, I know I should but I just don't......and here I am trying to teach my boys to compliment there partners when they get to that age and I am always telling them they are beautiful, strong and amazing and their mum does not believe it.....so great mum I am being to them and a hypocrite too. I have always had a low self esteem and that leads back to I guess being told that my butt was big or my double chin is huge and that was from family members...so here I am trying to build my children self esteem up while trying to also I guess build mine up as well.......we all know kids just say what they mean and do not think before the words come out.

So this is my latest profile pic on Facebook and I hate selfies....I have also booked myself in to have a professional photo session done and I really do not know why I did that....maybe I was having a moment as I look around I have no photos of me(except wedding picture, only a few in my house). Or maybe I wanted my boys to see me being brave.....I have no idea, again my self esteem issues kick in.

So what door would you choose?

Until next time

Bye xx

Family Traditions

Hi Everyone

Has been a while since I wrote but that is because I have been sick and really I am not getting the support I thought I would.....so feel a little let down/disappointed....but that is just me.(moving on)

Anyway leading up to this festive season (ahead) I am writing about any family traditions you may have and if you are introducing any or new ones this year does not have to be about Christmas just things you do together.

I am writing this while feeding lunch to master 2 before nap time and I can not wait for the brownies that are currently cooking to be ready.....I need a brownie coma today.

So back to traditions that you do.

We have started to do Pizza Friday here....we make the pizza base(very simple recipe...pizza dough)
and then adding whatever we find in fridge or pantry.....so far it has been great. the boys are loving choosing what goes on the pizza and they are loving the base too.......I am hoping I can keep this going well in to the boys growing up and even if I am feeding a small army of friends if they are home before going out this will make me so happy...... I like to dream anyway.

Last year for Christmas we introduced an Elf on the shelf (JT Vincent) the boys loved him.....they would jump out of bed every morning to see where JT would appear. Will admit we loved to make him do naughty things as well as special things......we had just as much fun as the kids. If you do not know about the Elf on the shelf he arrives on the December 1st and every night he reports back to santa about the kids behaviour and then reappears in a different spot each morning.....sometime he get up to bad things.....example of our elf below. This will continue for a few years yet.

I also want to add that this year has just flew by my Master 5 will soon be at school 5 days and week not just 3 days and he loves school which I am so happy about.....now just got to stop the attitude and we will be right.

I am hoping to start another tradition next year that does not involve my family but my friends that we go and have lunch at least once a month.....we get so busy as mums.....we need to slow down and have that time just for us.....only need to be 2 hours......but that is my time(not going to feel guilty for it) I am even going to write it in my diary so it becomes an appointment just for me.....so if you would like to join me let me know.

So what traditions do you have or are you starting some this year....would love to hear them. 

Have a great Monday.....I am going back to my brownie coma now.....ahhhh

 
Elita xxxx

Wind Down Time

Hi everyone

I didn't get to write earlier in the week as I would normally do.

Hope everyone is well and that you have had a great week so far. My week as been really good my oldest son's class presented assembly at school and he also received a certificate for his improved writing skills. I am so happy with the way he has progressed this year at school I am so happy I sent him to this school now and not the other one we had in mind. His start to schooling has been great and I too have had great experiencing meeting new friends.

I did a e-course on how to be an Abundant mumma and I will admit I really throught I was mad and I would get nothing out of it......I was so wrong I learnt I need to take moments throughout the day for me could be just 5 min or even the whole day( I will always put my children before anything else that is just be and how I feel about parenting) Link to her site is http://www.abundantmama.com/ some of the articles I swear she knew just how I was feeling, have a look at the site and let me know what you think. Now to todays post.

This blog post is not about that it is to find out what everyone like to do during there(let's call it) 'wind down time' as sometime I have to do it when I still have kids around.

I do love nap time in my house, that is my time and for those 2 hours they are just for me nothing in
 the house gets done.....and I mean nothing no cleaning, washing or cooking.

So what do I do during that time I do lots of things really.

Watch TV show that I love and you already know what ones I really love. I could certainly watch Beauty and the Beast all day if I was allowed but my kids have show they would like to watch and that seems to take over my tv, I am one of these people who the tv goes on in the morning and does not turn off until the kids go to bed.....I know very wrong my kids do not watch it all day it is really background noise they know what show they would like to watch they will stop and watch the but then they would go back to playing with lego or outside(which they love) the other tv shows I love and simply must watch are Reign and Arrow. Stephen Amell need I say more.....now we do not get these show on Australian tv so I watch online which I know is very naughty but what else an I do to get to see them I would wait months for the box set to come out

So back to wind down time, I read trashy romance novels not so much mills and boons I have moved on from them. I do love a good romantic story with male wooing the female and everything is great forever and after. I am currently reading Melissa foster after I have finished all of Bella Andre books for now and to make that complete a glass of wine never goes to waste...any suggestions are most welcome

I also make cards when I am in a creative mood, cross stitch gets started but seems to never get finished.

So what do you like to do.....would love to hear something different or do you even get wind down time.

Look forward to hearing from you soon

Elita. Xx

Do you raise your voice?

Hi everyone

Quick blog post today as it is school holidays and I am trying to be there for my kids and not on the computer or ipad too much, so we can enjoy the holidays. This morning we went for a great bush walk as my 5 yr old wanted to do that when the holidays started so that is what I am doing just trying to spend as much time with my children before they do not want to spend time with me.

Now I also need to confess as you all know I am doing an e-course on becoming a more abundant mumma and I will say I am loving this course, it has made me really think about a lot of thing and the way I parent my children.

I will admit I was one of those mums who would yell when the children do something wrong and I know it never worked to yell but I did it anyway, there are time I would talk to them and get down at there level but then they would go and do the the same thing over again, which frustrated me ALOT.

I decided I need to do something about it when my master 5 yelled back at me one day 'I hate you, you always yell at me' I nearly cried the and then but I did wait until I was out of range or they were asleep and I did I cried like a baby.....how could I let it get to that point, I felt so ashamed.

So I decided I would stop doing it and I found it hard until I found my e-course and yes there are days  when I sometimes raise my voice but not in the way I did before.

My boys seem so much happier now and my hubby helps with the kids a lot more, my 5yr old now tells me I am fun sometimes which is great to hear from him,so I must be doing something right.

Well below I have a link to some idea to help if you are interested back to my e-course need to do today's lesson as I have been away all morning.

Hope you are all having a great Monday.

Elita xxx

http://www.firefliesandmudpies.com/2013/08/26/mommy-meltdowns/

Time for me

Hi everyone

Hope your weekend was good.

This week I have started a couple of new things that are just for me.

Do not get me wrong. I am so grateful for my husband and children but when someone asked me my dreams the other week I could not tell them anything. I have a bucket list which I am starting to cross things off of you all know that I have a post written about it. I spent the next few days thinking about a dream and come up with nothing.......so I thought maybe it was time to find me the women behind 3 children(yes I include hubby in that too)

I love my children to the moon and back and so much more, but somewhere in trying to be a good mum and wife, looking after my children.......I think I lost me the women. I find myself getting grumpy quickly and have a very short fuse for things that should not brother me.

So for the next month this is what I am doing to find me again, the fun me.

http://www.abundantmama.com/

I am planning on becoming an Abundant mama. I came across this website by accident one day and I read some of her blog post and I found myself nodding with them....then I noticed she ran an e-course so I read what she is cover and I will admit I sat on the decision for over 2 weeks which is not like me at all......mummy guilt about wether I should spend it on me or am I just being silly.

I thought what harm can it do and so I went for it. So if I am not here much I am finding me the fun mumma I want to be again. My children deserve that after all it will not be long before they will not want me around on the weekend.....but that is a whole different post.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this. Feel free to leave comment.

Have a great Monday.

Elita xx

Me Time

Hi

Hope everyone's weekend was good. I had an ok one stayed at home with family which was good but this is what I usual do so nothing different here.

So today lets talk about Me time(so time just for you) as a mum do you get any?, As a wife/partner do you get any?

I will admit I miss Me Time, I love my children to bits but I do miss sometimes just sitting down with a friend for a huge catch up or just jumping in the car and going somewhere without have to thing about nap or bedtime.

I will always put my children first and that is the way it should be to me. when I think about where I come on the list......."thinking"......yeah that's me at the bottom.(kids, hubby ,me) not sure if that is silly or not but I think that is the way I feel and always have.

 

So if you could have anytime (for you left in the day) what would you do with it? What do you enjoy doing when you get some time just for you?

I love to read(trashy romantic novels), I enjoy card making(not good at it, but worth a try), a nice glass of wine and if I have the opportunity I love a beauty treatment(even if now I tint my own eyelashes at home) a good meal with friends who understand you is always great too.


To make myself sound silly. I also think it is important to have time for you so you can come back refreshed and for some reason you feel happier too(well I know I do). Do I sound unreasonable my hubby goes to work all day so he gets a break from the children and I am there 24 hrs a day. Just once a week an hour to myself would be great.....I am happy for it to be broke down in to 30 min lots if that is easier. "It takes a village to raise a family" love this quote and I first heard it when I was in the mother baby unit with my first. I now make a point to be there for my friends with new babies particularly under 12 weeks old as I remember it was hard and all such a blur. I do not have a mum I can drop my children off too or even just flake it on her couch for a quick cuppa (my mum passed away nearly 10 yrs ago, and I miss her, everyday)... I think because my youngest son is going through the terrible 2 I am feel this loss of me time. and when I do take some me time I feel so guilty for it......Does anyone else feel like this?

So lets make a plan to do something for ourselves this week, write it in the diary or on the calendar. I need to start looking after me too and must keep this quote close by.

Have a great day everyone

Elita xxx

 

P.S Found this article the morning that seems right for this post. anyone else nodding their head to it.

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Articles i love this week

Hi everyone
Just want to say Thank you to everyone who has left comments or has started to follow me lately, please feel free to share with friends and continue to let me know what you feel about my posts.

These are some of the things I love this week, let me know what you think of them.

five-ways-to-be-more-intentional-mom/ This is so me I seem to rush around and get everything done and then remember I have not spend the quality time my children need, must remember to slow down as mums and wives we are all guilty of this.

6-ways-to-have-a-happier-life-with-kids
 I love this article. Some of the things in remind me that yes maybe we do need to slow down a bit.......will say I love my routine and my kids seem to love it too.

looking-after-mum-me-time/
This is a great idea, we should all do this for each other. We all deserve a little me time.

/after-school-behaviour
Is it just my boy or do they seem to be a little out of control when they come home from school, my boys seems to push all my buttons and this seems to be the time he knows I will get upset with him but still he does it I quite often get "I listened all day at school, it is hard to do at home" it seems the moment we walk in the door my lovable well mannered boy stays outside. Maybe it is just me.

I am not the best parent will admit to that.....will be writing about that soon. Enjoy the rest of your hump day

Elita xx

What I love this week.

Hi
Here are some the articles I am enjoying this week. Hope everyone is having a fantastic Sunday and you get some time to check these out with a cup of tea/coffee

Some of these are so funny. Will admit I have used a few of the below excuses when I have been late. The car keys and phone one come to mind quite a lot.
33-reasons-moms-late/


We all need to do this, now which one to choose, let me know which one you have chosen todaynot just for mums but all women.
Affirmations for mums.


Isn't this always the way
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what-every-teacher-wants-you-to-know-but-wont-tell-you/  these are great.


These are great and make a lot of sense.
change-perspective-stop-kid-tantrums/


Let me know what you think of them.

Happy reading (I know I nodded a lot to these)

Bye for now.

what i am liking today

Hi everyone

Thought today I would write a post about things I am loving and that have caught my eye recently. I love to read what other people think of parenting and then take what I like from them. so these are the articles I am loving this week.

http://www.kidspot.com.au/on-the-days-i-struggle-the-most-with-my-little-ones/


http://www.thirtyhandmadedays.com/2014/08/kid-approved-lunch-box-snack-ideas/


http://goodmenproject.com/good-feed-blog/25-rules-for-moms-with-sons/ this one is my favourite it has some great ideas for us mumma's with boys

I am also in to spending time with each child to make sure they know I love them, I made a vow when I had children that I would take them for special treats and make sure they know how much I love them and also give them time to talk to me about anything that is bothering them.

Very simple things seem to make my boys happy. I love that.

Well better be off the boys are taking me for coffee/Hot chocolate and a chat today.....after I take them to the library.

Have a great day.