Merry Christmas to you.

Hi Everyone

So I have this will be my last blog post for the year.Not writing as much as I am really not getting out of it what I thought I would.....so will be thinking about continuing it in new year.

I really am not sure what to write so it could've a bit of everything, I have quite a bit in my mind at the moment and I am hoping writing this will calm me down a bit.

Is it just me or has people lost the art of writing Christmas cards, my mother always wrote heaps of cards always seemed so many to me as a child......and I think this is where I get this from.

I love receiving anything in the mail that is not bills and I personally will encourage my children to do this......it does not take that long to sit down and write (dear,merry Christmas and your name in a card)......so why are we receiving none or very little in the post.......Am I weird or do I need to move with the times.

Another thing that is on my mind is how busy we all get over this month before Christmas I know I have something on everyday this week and it is really stressing me out a bit......next year I think I may make Christmas smaller and not as busy.....or maybe I need to say NO more often. I am not on to organise my children to have something on every weekend they deserve some downtime and I have tried to do this during this Christmas season but it seem to have not worked. NOTE to self try harder.

This year for Christmas Day it will just be our little family, all the grandparents seem to be busy or are not even in the state, which is ok but we will have heaps of food left over so must remember not to buy too much food. Kids feel a little disappointed but they will be fine when they open presents on Christmas morning.

Today I am feeling disappointed that I had to pay a sum of money (weeks out from Christmas) that will not be used until February 2015. I understand a holding fee but not a full amount particularly when they will be getting interest from that money.

Well rant over.

Hope everyone has a great Christmas and New Year.    

Elita xx

Family Traditions

Hi Everyone

Has been a while since I wrote but that is because I have been sick and really I am not getting the support I thought I would.....so feel a little let down/disappointed....but that is just me.(moving on)

Anyway leading up to this festive season (ahead) I am writing about any family traditions you may have and if you are introducing any or new ones this year does not have to be about Christmas just things you do together.

I am writing this while feeding lunch to master 2 before nap time and I can not wait for the brownies that are currently cooking to be ready.....I need a brownie coma today.

So back to traditions that you do.

We have started to do Pizza Friday here....we make the pizza base(very simple recipe...pizza dough)
and then adding whatever we find in fridge or pantry.....so far it has been great. the boys are loving choosing what goes on the pizza and they are loving the base too.......I am hoping I can keep this going well in to the boys growing up and even if I am feeding a small army of friends if they are home before going out this will make me so happy...... I like to dream anyway.

Last year for Christmas we introduced an Elf on the shelf (JT Vincent) the boys loved him.....they would jump out of bed every morning to see where JT would appear. Will admit we loved to make him do naughty things as well as special things......we had just as much fun as the kids. If you do not know about the Elf on the shelf he arrives on the December 1st and every night he reports back to santa about the kids behaviour and then reappears in a different spot each morning.....sometime he get up to bad things.....example of our elf below. This will continue for a few years yet.

I also want to add that this year has just flew by my Master 5 will soon be at school 5 days and week not just 3 days and he loves school which I am so happy about.....now just got to stop the attitude and we will be right.

I am hoping to start another tradition next year that does not involve my family but my friends that we go and have lunch at least once a month.....we get so busy as mums.....we need to slow down and have that time just for us.....only need to be 2 hours......but that is my time(not going to feel guilty for it) I am even going to write it in my diary so it becomes an appointment just for me.....so if you would like to join me let me know.

So what traditions do you have or are you starting some this year....would love to hear them. 

Have a great Monday.....I am going back to my brownie coma now.....ahhhh

 
Elita xxxx

Eye Candy Friday

Hi Everyone

Hope your week is going well TGIF (thank god its Friday)

Was watching early morning tv this morning (unsettled children) and came across a show I had not seen for ages and I thought he was a bad boy that I would not mind dating.

So todays eye candy is:

Yes Mr. Luke Perry 90210 bad boy too cute for words..... now who would not like to be close to this just once. And the fights Brenda and Kellie would have over him.

Have a great weekend everyone

Elita xx

My Pregnancies(read if you would like too)

Hi Everyone

Hope the weekend was good mine was fantastic, I know I said I would write about this a while back but have only just remembered that I would do.....and today I am not sure what else to write about...have a mind block....so if you do not want to read it that is fine by me.

So I have 2 beautiful boys...well sometime a bit hard to handle but what children are not sometime.

So lets start with Master 5 which I will say was a very hard and scary pregnancy after my cancer treatment. I would get worried about every pain or anything else I would feel. Morning sickness lasted all day and I still worked with children and changed nappies so that did not help, I was exhausted by the end of the day and I came home ate tea and went straight to bed.

At 12 weeks my blood test came back with an overactive thyroid was started on thyroid medication 2 time daily which can cross the placenta but you need to have them and also monthly blood test even got down to weekly blood tests so much fun but had a great dr. to help me with that.....now never had a thyroid issues until I had that thyroid storm with my cancer(read my other motherhood post for all those details)  I had a forward facing placenta so I felt no movement until about 19 weeks with him, which worried me as everyone keep asking me any movement yet....which I would reply "no".

 I had a pretty big scare at 24 weeks I had a bleed and it was not a small bleed so admitted to hospital and told that if it does not stop I would need to deliver my baby....who would not survive......I remember laying in the hospital bed tell my little man to stay there that the world is not that great at the moment and was better in side then out in this world.....he must of listened he stayed there for now.

I got to week 25 and was wondering where my baby belly was I had nothing just looked fat and horrible my obgyn told me that may never get one....(larger lady) I so wanted that belly and then by the time 34 weeks came I had a small one but only if you looked at me from the side and then I would have to really hold my top down for you to see it. As I worked with children I was put on bed rest from 30 weeks and I got so sick of laying on the couch watching daytime tv.

I went for my 36 week appointment and that when the worried look started....your baby has not grown any.....I went should I be worried.....she told me to go home and rest and she would see me next week.....I remember the next Wednesday I had the first appointment of the day....hubby told me to take my bag and I told he do  not be silly will not need that......should have taken it did not come home....my little man had stopped growing and would need to come out....so back in to hospital and then hooked up to machines and other things......the following day my little man was born at 6pm via C-section and was quickly rushed away to nicu he sent the night in humidity crib as he was so small at just 6 pound. Obgyn came in and told me we where luck that he was born he might not have been with us if we had left him unable to feed him myself so with heartbreak I bottled fed him....6 nights in hospital with him to make sure he was putting on weight....so lucky to have master 5.

So now master 2, my pregnancy with him was very similar to master 5 and was told my obgyn that maybe pregnancy did not agree with me. morning sickness was the same and cooking tea was horrible and knowing I needed to eat it went against everything that I want to do. plus I had a toddler that I need to deal with he was 2 when I was pregnant. Again I had a front placenta (so on movement until 25 weeks which was very normal) and thyroid issue which that picked up at 19 weeks so back on the medication for that....which was fun more blood tests and reporting to dr. and I had to do this with a toddler in tow......fun times and lots of freddo's were eaten while mummy had appointments.......great mummy skills....LOL.

Because I was able to rest a little more at home while my toddler played my later half of my pregnancy went well I was booked for a C-section again (safest way for me to have children because of my thyroid)
Went to hospital on the day my operation was happening and I remember thinking this feel weird but I got a chance to say good bye to my toddler while he went to stay with his grandparents for the stay in hospital I arrived early morning but would not being going down until about 1:30pm hubby got his lunch brought to him while I watched him eat it....looked so good. Off to theatre straight in and my master 2 was delivered by 2 pm again a small baby 6 pound 2 oz was able to hold him while they stitched me up then back upstairs to meet one set of grandparents.....off to get cleaned up as he was getting a little cold with me. After an hr I wondered where he was so hubby went to check on him....after about 30 min I had regained enough feeling in toes to sit up and wonder where he was then he came back and told me that he has been kanga caring with our son he was in a humidity crib and would be there until his temp was normal and he could hold that temp for 6 hrs......following morning came and I was allowed to shower and walk down to see my little boy in NICU that walk is hard as I did not know what I would be facing.....the staff knew me straight away and welcomed me like I was a friend not a parent.....love that.

I was able to hold him and gave him a feed (bottle as I produced no milk due to thyroid problems and obgyn told me so hard the 2nd time and with a toddler so she made the decision for me...love that too) then was told he needed to stay with them in nicu because they are waiting for blood test to come back....and hr later my fears really kicked in.......my boy had an infection(sepsis) and he need to be on a drip.......ahhh he is one day old WTF........but I did what my paediatrician suggested it took over 2 hrs to get the drip in and then he would have to stay in ICU so I had people visiting me and no baby for them to hold they were not allowed to see him, his big brother only saw him for about 30 seconds......so hard seeing your baby with a drip in and a nasal tube too. The staff were wonderful they would come a get me when he needed a feed or change....even in the middle of the night.....sometime they would bring him down to me and just sit with me for 30 mins so I could hold him out of the nursery....because he had an infection I also got treated with antibiotics and we found out that perhaps I had been leaking fluid for a few days before the C-section. So 6 days on the drip for my tiny man and then another few days to make sure he was taking the bottle well and putting on weight....so in totally 9 days in hospital I was so happy to be going home.....my little man slept and drank well......now he is a very full on 2 yr old.

I will be having no more children my obgyn will not allow it and that is fine by me...I just hug and get my baby fix from other people children's....that works for me.

ok so that it it.....anyone want to share there stories feel free I would love to hear them.

Elita xxx

Eye Candy Friday

Hi everyone

I am doing this very quickly this morning before playgroup, so please forgive me if there are mistakes.

I am not sure who I have done for eye candy Friday......I didn't think to write a list.

I have been thinking about this guy since I saw his last movie trailer. So let get right to him.

Yes Mr. Paul Walker will say he does look very yummy in these pictures, and he is truly missed by all people who knew him.

 

Now for the trailer for his last movie I loved it was still weird seeing him on it.

 

 

Have a great weekend everyone

Elita xx

Wind Down Time

Hi everyone

I didn't get to write earlier in the week as I would normally do.

Hope everyone is well and that you have had a great week so far. My week as been really good my oldest son's class presented assembly at school and he also received a certificate for his improved writing skills. I am so happy with the way he has progressed this year at school I am so happy I sent him to this school now and not the other one we had in mind. His start to schooling has been great and I too have had great experiencing meeting new friends.

I did a e-course on how to be an Abundant mumma and I will admit I really throught I was mad and I would get nothing out of it......I was so wrong I learnt I need to take moments throughout the day for me could be just 5 min or even the whole day( I will always put my children before anything else that is just be and how I feel about parenting) Link to her site is http://www.abundantmama.com/ some of the articles I swear she knew just how I was feeling, have a look at the site and let me know what you think. Now to todays post.

This blog post is not about that it is to find out what everyone like to do during there(let's call it) 'wind down time' as sometime I have to do it when I still have kids around.

I do love nap time in my house, that is my time and for those 2 hours they are just for me nothing in
 the house gets done.....and I mean nothing no cleaning, washing or cooking.

So what do I do during that time I do lots of things really.

Watch TV show that I love and you already know what ones I really love. I could certainly watch Beauty and the Beast all day if I was allowed but my kids have show they would like to watch and that seems to take over my tv, I am one of these people who the tv goes on in the morning and does not turn off until the kids go to bed.....I know very wrong my kids do not watch it all day it is really background noise they know what show they would like to watch they will stop and watch the but then they would go back to playing with lego or outside(which they love) the other tv shows I love and simply must watch are Reign and Arrow. Stephen Amell need I say more.....now we do not get these show on Australian tv so I watch online which I know is very naughty but what else an I do to get to see them I would wait months for the box set to come out

So back to wind down time, I read trashy romance novels not so much mills and boons I have moved on from them. I do love a good romantic story with male wooing the female and everything is great forever and after. I am currently reading Melissa foster after I have finished all of Bella Andre books for now and to make that complete a glass of wine never goes to waste...any suggestions are most welcome

I also make cards when I am in a creative mood, cross stitch gets started but seems to never get finished.

So what do you like to do.....would love to hear something different or do you even get wind down time.

Look forward to hearing from you soon

Elita. Xx

Eye Candy Friday

Hi Everyone

Quick post for this Friday will just let the pictures do the talking, requested by one of the school mums hope this is ok.

So here is this weeks eye candy:

So today we have Vin Diesel. for anyone who does not know his movies then we have Pitch Black, XXX and of course The Fast and the furious franchise.

Of course we need a picture in a suit or at least a jacket.

 Have a great weekend everybody

Elita xxx

What does this mumma want to be?

Hi Everyone

Sorry it has been a while have had hubby home for a few weeks from work so bit hard to write with him looking over my shoulder, we have been away as a family, and also my master 2 has not been sleeping.....so mumma reached a breaking point and needed to step back a bit.


This post may be long or short depending on how much I waffle on.

Lately while I have been away I have done a bit of thinking...what mother does not do that most of the time....this thinking has been about ME and what I would like to do when my boys are both at school.

It started when a friend asked me what I wanted to do when the boys went to school and to be honest with master 2 not sleeping at night I could not see past the next night....but when I sat down with coffee in hand and actually thought about it I came up very blank.....I had nothing....what is my dream.....I am trying to teach my boys to always dream and follow them......but their mum was not or did not have any dreams of her own......so what a great teacher/mum was I.

My dream was to have children (as I had cancer I did not think I would get that) so now I have my wonderful amazing children what now for my dreams......I have no idea where to start.

So here I am sitting writing a list of what I would like to do when I no longer have my children at home with me all day. I have decided I would like to do a job that is school hours so I can still be there with my children during school holidays(they grow up so quick, I do not want to miss anything...is that selfish of me?)

I used to work in child care before the children came along I was thinking I would like to go back in to something in relation to watching children grow and develop, there is nothing like seeing faces when they finally get something......it is wonderful.

I have the perfect job idea. I want to do Teachers Aide. Now where to start with that I have no idea, have looked at courses to get my certificate 3 in Education support but they are all to expensive for this stay at home mum....so I might need to think a bit more. Any suggestions?

Well while I think I better get back to folding the washing.

Have a great day

Elita xxx

Eye Candy Friday

Hi everyone

This week has been a very emotional week for me. I have learnt a lot of things about myself and have found a lot of answers to a few questions that have been in my mind for a while.

Anyway back to this weeks Eye Candy we are going back this week to the '80's.

I loved watching this show on a Friday night(I think that when it was on my memory is a bit hazy)

 

 So who else watched this man in 21 Jump street. Mr Johnny Depp. He looked so innocent in this picture. I really do not need to tell you what else he has stared in do I.


So lets get to how he looks today, he had a guest role in the movie 21 Jump street and I will say it took a while for me to work it out.

 

 

Have a great weekend am off to play Ten Pin bowling with my boys this morning. Last week of school holidays here so off to do something fun and something that my son as picked it was his turn to choose what to do this week. I will admit he is ready to go back to school next week.

 

 

 

Elita xxx

 

Do you raise your voice?

Hi everyone

Quick blog post today as it is school holidays and I am trying to be there for my kids and not on the computer or ipad too much, so we can enjoy the holidays. This morning we went for a great bush walk as my 5 yr old wanted to do that when the holidays started so that is what I am doing just trying to spend as much time with my children before they do not want to spend time with me.

Now I also need to confess as you all know I am doing an e-course on becoming a more abundant mumma and I will say I am loving this course, it has made me really think about a lot of thing and the way I parent my children.

I will admit I was one of those mums who would yell when the children do something wrong and I know it never worked to yell but I did it anyway, there are time I would talk to them and get down at there level but then they would go and do the the same thing over again, which frustrated me ALOT.

I decided I need to do something about it when my master 5 yelled back at me one day 'I hate you, you always yell at me' I nearly cried the and then but I did wait until I was out of range or they were asleep and I did I cried like a baby.....how could I let it get to that point, I felt so ashamed.

So I decided I would stop doing it and I found it hard until I found my e-course and yes there are days  when I sometimes raise my voice but not in the way I did before.

My boys seem so much happier now and my hubby helps with the kids a lot more, my 5yr old now tells me I am fun sometimes which is great to hear from him,so I must be doing something right.

Well below I have a link to some idea to help if you are interested back to my e-course need to do today's lesson as I have been away all morning.

Hope you are all having a great Monday.

Elita xxx

http://www.firefliesandmudpies.com/2013/08/26/mommy-meltdowns/

Eye candy Friday

Hi Everyone

very quick post today, hubby home from work for a few days and we are having a family morning this morning before I catch up with my bestie and her wonderful kidlets later today for some much needed girly chat while the kids play.

So today was a bit hard I had no idea who I would choose to tempt you with today.

Here goes

 

Mr Taylor Kinney  so famous for being Lady Ga Ga's on/off again boyfriend and also for Vampire diaries and Chicago fire........he plays a great fireman. what do you think?

 

 

 

 

 

We need the suit photo too. so here you go he also has a great tattoo on his back. but can not find a good pic of it.

 

 

 

Have a great weekend everyone, Let me know if there is anyone you would like to see for Eye Candy.

 

 

 

Have a great weekend.

 

Elita xxx

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Bit of everything today

Hi Everyone

Hope your weekend was good, mine was great.

Well for today's post it is a bit of everything, I am feeling so proud of myself and I will explain that later.

So let begin at the weekend so this weekend was the AFL Grand final here in Australia and my husbands team was playing so I can tell you that our tv was on from 9 am and was not turned off until after 8pm that night. We had a few drinks and sat back to enjoy the day (anyone in America to us in Australia it would be the same as your super bowl weekend) it really was a one sided game in the end with the Hawthorn hawks wining.....back to back premierships. So one very happy husband and he was like that all weekend. got lots of job done off the to do list as he was so happy he just did them.

I did lots of baking yesterday. cooked brownies, pizza for tea and rolls. it was a busy day in my kitchen but so much fun, lots of mess and flour on tops, floor and carpet. Will remember the day for the fun we had.

Today is the start of school holidays here and lets just say my children are all over the emotional scale. one minute happy one minute fighting and very loud. My 5 yr old need to be entertained so I have made a jar with different things to do in it to keep him entertained seems to be working so far. My 2 yr old is loving having his big brother home but that also means he has to share and try not to annoy his brother which I can say he is loving doing to him.

We are going to do a planner after rest/sleep time so we know what we are doing and so my 5 yr old know when we are going out or staying home. Also so this mum can see when she needs money and when she doesn't as I have found school holidays can be expensive if I let it be.

So to my proud moment today. better tell you back story first. my son's ipad was still running ios 6 ( I know who is still running that, needed to delete games and did not have the heart to do that too them) so today I thought I could update via the computer would not take ups so many MB's so I deleted a few things not that my son's know yet. And like you do I googled how to do it.

As I was hooking the ipad up I was hoping it would work and thinking please do not lose all the games or I think I would have very upset children to deal with. my first hurdle was the fact was the ipad was not charging but syncing fine so after googling that we moved on to the next step.

So after an hour and a half finally the ipad is updated with the lastest ios 8 and my boys is happy as he can finally watch iview as it was not working before...so mum fixed it and now I have one happy boy the things we do for our children......very proud mummy and a HUGE Thank you to google.....I know I would be lost doing something like that without it.

Off to open a few parcels that came for me today. one with scrapbooking cards in it.....love getting parcels...... in fact if anyone is interested in joining me I have joined up for the Fat Mum Slim gift exchange. Here is the link: http://fatmumslim.com.au/fat-mum-slim-gift-exchange-2014-join-us/ if you want to join me I think it is a fantastic idea to brighten someone's Christmas up. So who is joining me would love to know.

Hope you all have a great day and school holidays to everyone in Tasmania.
Elita

xxx

Friday Eye Candy

Hi everyone

Quick post today, off to the zoo with my boys and playgroup so I am typing and running around doing everything that I need to get ready.

On to this hottie

This week it is:

Yes Mr Thor.......Chris Hemsworth. Another aussie bloke.

well may just have to look at this picture for a while......ahhhh so hot and the snail trail.....ahhh
must keep moving have stuff to do. few more looks will not hurt.

He is home to watch footy, send time with family and to support child protection.

I will be joining this great campaign you can find all details at http://www.childhood.org.au/

Have a great day everyone....off to the zoo now

Elita xxx

Friendship part 2

Hi

Hope your weekend was good, I had 2 sick children so not fun for me but hopefully on mend now.

So today I lost a friend or she may not have been quite a friend yet....I really do not know.

So why am I feeling terrible about it.

Let me tell you a little about the friend I like to be. I am a straight shooter.....yes I am probably the person you hate or dislike. I do not mess around I talk openly and honestly and that is the way I like to spoken to in return.

I am my mother daughter I do not much around. Sometime I think it is a great thing and other times I wish I could hold back but it is not I my nature to do that......I guess I leant from a very young age that you need to be honest....maybe being an only child and having no children to chat too just adults did this I am not sure.

To be honest I really did not know her very well and what I understand she can change her mind every day with what she want to do.

Now I am going to let you in a secret when I was in high school I was bullied not at school but on the way home on the bus. I would always sit with a friend......at least I throughout she was a friend but I leant quickly maybe she was not.

Anyway back to being bullied. I would leave my bag under the chair and the girl would would bully me would pull my bag from under the chair and spit in my lunch box or down the side of my bag anywhere she thought I would put my hand. Is was horrible and I did not say a word I just sat there and took it....even my friend did not say anything.....and now thinking back to that now I guess she was worried it might happen to her so she keep quiet.

At night I cried and tried to clean my bag out before my mum saw it. In the end I moved to the front of the bus so she could not do it anymore.....but of course I felt alone and did not know what else to do....still make me cry today thinking about it.

I know how could a person like me be bullied but it show it can happen to anyone.....maybe that is why I now seem to be honest and a straight talker now. I really do not know.

So maybe I drove her away with my honesty, I will never know because she will not let anyone in or let anyone know how she is feeling.....

Ok enough of me going on about it....can not do anything now.i have a great bestie who is an amazing person and is a sister I never had. So I would do anything for her. So thank you and you know who you are.

Have a great week, back to my e-course now.

Elita

Xxx    

Friday Eye Candy

Hi Everyone

Well it has been a quiet week for this week for me, I have been doing my Abundant mum program and I say I have leant quite a few things about myself and the way I interact with husband and children.(abundantmama.)

I am loving all the support I am getting from fellow participates. Now on to this weeks Eye Candy (would love some more suggestions)

 

 

 

None other then Mr Ryan Gosling. Star of The Notebook.....tell me if you have not seen it because you should best movie ever. And new father this week of a baby girl.

 

 

 

 

 

Enjoy your weekend everyone

 

xxx

 

 

 

 

Time for me

Hi everyone

Hope your weekend was good.

This week I have started a couple of new things that are just for me.

Do not get me wrong. I am so grateful for my husband and children but when someone asked me my dreams the other week I could not tell them anything. I have a bucket list which I am starting to cross things off of you all know that I have a post written about it. I spent the next few days thinking about a dream and come up with nothing.......so I thought maybe it was time to find me the women behind 3 children(yes I include hubby in that too)

I love my children to the moon and back and so much more, but somewhere in trying to be a good mum and wife, looking after my children.......I think I lost me the women. I find myself getting grumpy quickly and have a very short fuse for things that should not brother me.

So for the next month this is what I am doing to find me again, the fun me.

http://www.abundantmama.com/

I am planning on becoming an Abundant mama. I came across this website by accident one day and I read some of her blog post and I found myself nodding with them....then I noticed she ran an e-course so I read what she is cover and I will admit I sat on the decision for over 2 weeks which is not like me at all......mummy guilt about wether I should spend it on me or am I just being silly.

I thought what harm can it do and so I went for it. So if I am not here much I am finding me the fun mumma I want to be again. My children deserve that after all it will not be long before they will not want me around on the weekend.....but that is a whole different post.

Would love to hear your thoughts on this. Feel free to leave comment.

Have a great Monday.

Elita xx

Weekly Eye Candy

Hi

Must be Friday TGIF.

So straight on to todays eye candy to help your Friday pass that little bit quicker.

So tell me who has not wanted to run their hands down this stomach.

Well do I need to introduce him....okay I will for those who may have head under a rock this is Channing Tatum so may have seen him in She's the Man, Magic Mike(will say looking forward Magic Mike 2) These are a fine set of yummy but I still prefer the Beast from BATB but I am little obsessed with that show.....as some of you know.

Now for the suit picture, I love a man in a suit so will be always adding a picture of the boys in a suit.

So are we happy with todays Eye candy....maybe I might add one more thing for you

Please enjoy on this Friday.



Have a great weekend....I am off on a Friday drive to the country.

Elita xx

 

 

 

 

 

 

OMG why did i not try this earlier?

Hi Everyone

Hope everyone is having a great day.

Short quick post today.

I have found the best way to do a bun works on short and longer hair now tell me who does not have a sock at home with holes in toes. Chop the toes off and make a sock bun so easy. will put tutorial up so you can see how to do it so amazing and easy to do.

Here is the tutorial so easy and looks great.

I also learnt today that marshmallows will help a sore throat(not sure how but my husband tried this one out and said that it worked suggested by doctor to him)

So this there anything that you have tried that has made your life easier or any tips you would like to share.....Please feel free to share them. I am always looking for new tips and short cuts to try.

Look forward to hearing from you soon

Elita xx

What is it with Men sometimes......

Hi

Hope everyone had a great weekend, mine was the same old, I did go to a great linen party on Saturday so that was nice to get out of the house kids free for a little while at least.

Well today I am talking about Males in particular Mechanics.AHHHHH

I took my car to the mechanics this morning after I was told that my normal mechanic could not fix the problem as he had never change one on my little Proton.....so I had to take it to the proper Proton mechanic to fix.....so I call up and was told the part I need would have to be freighted in from Melbourne so that was ok and everything so I would have to wait to get my car fix but it was still drivable so away I went everyday until today.

Was told to drop it in a 8am so the whole family had to be out the door by 7:30am we got in there before 8 and then 8am came and went 15 minutes later the mechanic decides to show up, up until them the gate was locked and bolted.

When I pass the keys over to him he look at me like I am crazy and ask "dropping off" I told him "yes was told to drop off at 8am and now my husband is late for work" my answer was " I had to do a school drop off so that is why I am late" explained that need the car back my 2pm so I could do the school pick up. I get "you know what's wrong with it" I tell him that it,is a leak at the back of water pump whether it is water pump not hose not sure. "call me if problem" I leave the car with him and am thinking great he does not know what he is doing.

Then he tell me that he may not have it ready and that he would call my husband when ready.....WTF.........I just said to call me and that I need it for a school run. Because I am a women do I look silly. I seem to get this once a week where men think women are silly the other day it was an elderly gentleman who push in front of me when I had the pram and I knock his heel I said sorry but all I got was young mums of today just pushing out babies to get money......then he looked down and saw my wedding band and just suddenly stopped what he was saying.

Well that is my vent.....might just ring the mechanic and see how he is going with it. Wish me luck.

Does anyone else seem to cope this sometimes or if you have a whinge you would like to have about Males in general, would love to hear it today. Vent away.

Hope everyone is having a great day.

Elita xx

Weekly Eye Candy

Hi
Must be Friday again so let get straight in to it

So this weeks eye candy is:

Mr Stephen Amell none other then CW's Arrow. That towel looks like it need to go.
nothing like a man in a suit that is a must and he pulls it off very well.

And for all the mums. A man spending time with his daughter is perfect to me and he love to do things with her he quite often dresses her up and take her to major sporting events to support their team.

 Have a great weekend everyone

Elita xx

Nap/Rest Time: What do you do?

Okay so lets chat about what you do during Nap/rest time

I so LOVE nap/rest time the 2 hours I get is wonderful and I need them not only for my sanity but I think it is the only time I get to be by myself and to do anything I want and not be interrupted.

I am one of those mums who has always had a routine and my first son loved it her know what was happening and when it was going to happen. I am flexible but I would make appointments around nap/rest time even when they were babies. I spent time in the mother baby unit and learnt fairly quickly that a baby will sleep better in the same environment.....and that to me was bed.

When I only had one child and we dropped to 3 sleeps a day at 6 months I did let him sleep in the pram a few days a week as I enjoyed the walk out to my hubby and I only did that a couple of times a week.....as I found if you changed routine too much it took a few days to get back into it again.

My first son was in a single bed from 2 yr old and have never had any trouble with him coming out numerous times at night.

So when my second boy came along I found a routine worked very well with him too....I used the things I had been taught in the MBU like a newborn should only be up 1 hr before they need sleep that included feeding time....this helped to avoid overtired and I learnt very quickly an overtired baby is hard to settle and feed.

Both my boys love routine and I am so happy about that....we all do the same thing every morning as adults so why not help our children too

So will stop ranting now.

When my boys are napping or resting........yes I am one of those mums my 5 yr old still goes to his room and has a rest he will play the ipad or read, it need to be quiet and stay in his room until 2pm then he come outs

While my boys are napping and resting I am catching up on tv shows I love which means Beauty and the Beast, Arrow and Reign (all CW shows too) or I am chatting to a friend on Facebook, I eat bad food normally and enjoy a hot drink, read a book, write/read a blog(like I am doing today)  It is time for me time for my brain to switch off and not have to think about answering any questions or watching what I say. I do not do any housework...that has always been my rule and I try to encourage my friends who have children to do this too.....you need to sit and breath sometimes.

The silence to be me is great, sometime I even can sneak an extra 20 min on to nap/rest time but lately since my 5 yr old can tell the time he come out right on 2pm and we are back to it again.

What do you do during nap/rest time, do you have a sleep too or it that your house keeping time?

Let me know.......I love hearing what everyone else does

Have a great rest time....what I have left anyway 

Elita xxx

Me Time

Hi

Hope everyone's weekend was good. I had an ok one stayed at home with family which was good but this is what I usual do so nothing different here.

So today lets talk about Me time(so time just for you) as a mum do you get any?, As a wife/partner do you get any?

I will admit I miss Me Time, I love my children to bits but I do miss sometimes just sitting down with a friend for a huge catch up or just jumping in the car and going somewhere without have to thing about nap or bedtime.

I will always put my children first and that is the way it should be to me. when I think about where I come on the list......."thinking"......yeah that's me at the bottom.(kids, hubby ,me) not sure if that is silly or not but I think that is the way I feel and always have.

 

So if you could have anytime (for you left in the day) what would you do with it? What do you enjoy doing when you get some time just for you?

I love to read(trashy romantic novels), I enjoy card making(not good at it, but worth a try), a nice glass of wine and if I have the opportunity I love a beauty treatment(even if now I tint my own eyelashes at home) a good meal with friends who understand you is always great too.


To make myself sound silly. I also think it is important to have time for you so you can come back refreshed and for some reason you feel happier too(well I know I do). Do I sound unreasonable my hubby goes to work all day so he gets a break from the children and I am there 24 hrs a day. Just once a week an hour to myself would be great.....I am happy for it to be broke down in to 30 min lots if that is easier. "It takes a village to raise a family" love this quote and I first heard it when I was in the mother baby unit with my first. I now make a point to be there for my friends with new babies particularly under 12 weeks old as I remember it was hard and all such a blur. I do not have a mum I can drop my children off too or even just flake it on her couch for a quick cuppa (my mum passed away nearly 10 yrs ago, and I miss her, everyday)... I think because my youngest son is going through the terrible 2 I am feel this loss of me time. and when I do take some me time I feel so guilty for it......Does anyone else feel like this?

So lets make a plan to do something for ourselves this week, write it in the diary or on the calendar. I need to start looking after me too and must keep this quote close by.

Have a great day everyone

Elita xxx

 

P.S Found this article the morning that seems right for this post. anyone else nodding their head to it.

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Weekly Eye-Candy

Hi
Here is your weekly eye candy.

Could not choose between them so I put them together. The Supernatural boys. Jensen Ackles and Jared Padalecki. Would of happily put my hand up to place the sheet of them.

Here are a couple of YouTube clips just to help you get to the end of your day,




This one always makes me smile and laugh.



TGIF Must say might just enjoy a nice glass of wine later on....(this mums is on cloud nine her favourite show started filming S3 today so very happy)

Happy Weekend

xx

Articles i love this week

Hi everyone
Just want to say Thank you to everyone who has left comments or has started to follow me lately, please feel free to share with friends and continue to let me know what you feel about my posts.

These are some of the things I love this week, let me know what you think of them.

five-ways-to-be-more-intentional-mom/ This is so me I seem to rush around and get everything done and then remember I have not spend the quality time my children need, must remember to slow down as mums and wives we are all guilty of this.

6-ways-to-have-a-happier-life-with-kids
 I love this article. Some of the things in remind me that yes maybe we do need to slow down a bit.......will say I love my routine and my kids seem to love it too.

looking-after-mum-me-time/
This is a great idea, we should all do this for each other. We all deserve a little me time.

/after-school-behaviour
Is it just my boy or do they seem to be a little out of control when they come home from school, my boys seems to push all my buttons and this seems to be the time he knows I will get upset with him but still he does it I quite often get "I listened all day at school, it is hard to do at home" it seems the moment we walk in the door my lovable well mannered boy stays outside. Maybe it is just me.

I am not the best parent will admit to that.....will be writing about that soon. Enjoy the rest of your hump day

Elita xx

Friendships

Hi everyone

Sorry I have not been around as much lately had both boys down with bronchitis so not fun at all here, then a hubby with man flu(lots of moaning and groaning) and a mumma who cause a cold but had to keep going for the 2 boys who coughed all night and my big 5 yr old needing a nebuliser for the first time(scared the shit out of me) and this mumma was very tired.

Today let talk about friendships and what they mean to me/you.

My friends mean the world to me, I had no brothers or sisters growing up so to me they are like a second family. I have had a few really close friends over the years but never a huge group of friends I could probably count the group on one hand or less sometime......not sure if that is telling me something or not.

When I got in to the workforce to be honest I had workmates that were friends but I did not hang out with them on the weekend maybe the odd Friday night after work drink(worked in child care, so some weeks needed that drink) I was really a loner on the weekends....not from lack of trying, just did not want to push myself or our work relationship too far....hope that made sense.

Then came the whole motherhood thing and it seems like you are back to square one. complete strangers seem to comment on your bump or want to touch it. The friends that you had before you got pregnant seem to fade in to the background. I remember I tried to keep up my friendships after I had my first child by going out for drinks with the girls when my son was 6 weeks old......I though I can do this......it was the hardest thing ever to do.....I was only gone 2 hrs and I really did not relax.....I have since be able to go out and relax a bit more.....but as mums we forget how hard that first separation can be.

I went to a mother group program that Child health ran......which went for 6 weeks and I meet some amazing women(some were stay at home mums, part time worker and we even had full time workers) and we grew very close.....we keep meeting every week to help each other through the day to day with a baby/toddler and then a pre-schooler......the friends I had before kids fell away I guess we grew apart.....I will admit I did not mind as I had new friends that understood what I was going through on a day to day basis.

I still have a few of these friends.....others have moved states.....one of these friends has become my bestie and I would do anything for her and her family. She is always there for me and offers to help in anyway possible......I do the same for her she is part of my family now and would not have it any other way we even managed even when our children go to different schools.

Then we hit the school mums (my boy has just started kindy this year) and you feel like you are back at high school trying to work out where you fit or even if you do fit in somewhere......but I am so thankfully that I have found some great new friends at school and hopefully these friendships will continue to bloom as our children progress though primary school.

 I found this quote earlier in the year and thought it would be great and so true.
'People make time for who they want to make time for. People text & reply to people they want to talk to. Never believe anyone who says they've been to busy. If they wanted to be around you, they would'................even if it is a simple hi in a text or message on FB. what do you think of that quote?

So how many great friends do you have(the ones that are really there for you) and how often do you see them....do you make an effort or is it pretty even?

Have a great Monday everyone xx

Weeky Eye Candy

Hi

So have had a request for this weeks eye candy. My bestie wanted this so here is this weeks eye candy. Hope she approves.

 

 

 

Our very own Travis Fimmel (yes he is Australian, but will say not my first choice, hands up who will remove that bottle of vodka for him anyday) you may know him from Calvin Klein modelling and the tv series Vikings.

Have a great weekend....off to dr here soon 2 sick kids. May need some wine before day is out.

xx

Mumma Guilt

Hi everyone

Today I am writing about mumma guilt. It has taken me 5 yrs to feel it but all I can say is "dislike it a lot"

I feel like crap. I have the man flu (that hubby passed on to me) and master 5 was home from school yesterday with a temp and one chesty cough.(I am that mum today who you say should have keep child at home)

Today I sent him to school and I feel so guilty for it (sorry to classmates, if they get sick) we went to the dr yesterday at 10am and by the time we got in the car after being told he had a viral thing. He asked for McDonalds for lunch (which we had because he had waited well for 45 min to see dr for a 5 min appointment) and then after rest time he ran around the backyard for an hr playing with his brother.

So I decided if he could do that he would be right for school. (did wake up with a small temp which had come down before school) so I dosed him up with neurofen and sent him to school.

I will be the mum waiting at school gate with Panadol in hand ready to dose him again.....feel like a bad mum and guilt is unbelievable.

He wanted to go to school to see his friends he was so excited who am I to say he could not go...I know I am his mum and I should put my foot down but to be honest I could use a rest so I can get better too. He has a book week walk tomorrow and would be so upset to miss it.....worst mum ever I would be

So I am sorry to his classmates and I guess I am sitting here waiting for a phone call to collect him from school......before my little man nap time.

So anyone else had the mumma guilts and what did you do to get them confession time?

xx

What I love this week.

Hi
Here are some the articles I am enjoying this week. Hope everyone is having a fantastic Sunday and you get some time to check these out with a cup of tea/coffee

Some of these are so funny. Will admit I have used a few of the below excuses when I have been late. The car keys and phone one come to mind quite a lot.
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We all need to do this, now which one to choose, let me know which one you have chosen todaynot just for mums but all women.
Affirmations for mums.


Isn't this always the way
-26-murphys-laws-parenting/


what-every-teacher-wants-you-to-know-but-wont-tell-you/  these are great.


These are great and make a lot of sense.
change-perspective-stop-kid-tantrums/


Let me know what you think of them.

Happy reading (I know I nodded a lot to these)

Bye for now.

Weekly eye-candy

Hi

What can I say it is a hard job but here is this weeks eye candy

Some of you know who this is if you don't this my friends is Jay Ryan (Mr Beast from CW's Beauty and the Beast)  may have seen him in Offspring, Terra Nova and Go girls.

If you have not seen Beauty And The Beast  do yourself a favour and watch it,no I am serious really watch it and give it a few episodes ...I mean his voice,his eyes and man that body.......ahhhhh puddle on the floor right now. He can pull a suit off very well.(Monday nights on foxtel/Austar 8:30pm on Fox8) if not I have all episodes if you ask nicely I will pm you.......remember I did worn you about my obsession with this show.

Any suggestions for weekly eye candy is welcomed.

Bucket List

Hi
After my last post these are something I thought about while having chemotherapy and decided I needed something else to think about so I started my list.

Yes I am still young but I have a bucket list. so of the things on it I have achieved some I will achieve a little later in life. These are not only things I want to do but dreams and I am always working towards my dreams.

Bucket List

• Have a best friend who does not let me down.
• Feel breathless from a kiss.
• Name a star.
• Own a husky.
• Surprise party thrown for me.
• Kiss in the rain.
• Take a cute photo in photo booth with someone.
• Have a baby.
• Be called mummy.
• Take the kids on amazing holiday.
• Watch children get married.
• Be the best parents we can be.
• Be kissed unexpectedly. 
• Wear couture.
• Be woken with a kiss.
• Visit set of my favourite show (BATB, Toronto,Canada).
• Experience paradise.
• Be a bridesmaid.
• Go to a Masquerade ball.
• Go on a cruise.
• Let go of a floating lantern.
• Become an inspiration .
• Stay in a penthouse.
• Send a letter to a random address and see if they write back.

 The most impotant one: Actually do my bucket list.


So do you have bucket list and what is on yours. would love to hear some of the things you have on yours.

Have a great day.

Long road to motherhood

Hi
Hope everyone had a great weekend.

Well this the post that I thought I should write now. The long road to children.

My first pregnancy was not the best experience I have had and not sure where to start to tell you about it, so may just start at the start and tell you this is not something I wish on anyone so if there is too much information I am sorry.

I have PCOS and so it was hard to conceive a baby to start with so after a trip to GP and being told that I was ok and that I need to relax we tried for over 6 months and I still felt that something else was wrong so back to GP and tell him I want to see a specialist finally I have my referral and off I go to see my fertility specialist.

First visit was told I need fertility drugs or IVF to conceive will admit I learnt to trust what he said very quicky. So off I went with my prescription for Clomid and the instructions to follow. I went back to see him at day 14 of my cycle to have an internal ultrasound which I would have every month for the next 5 months until I feel pregnant on the last round of Clomid .

After this round the fun started had a lot of morning sickness more then what I should be doing, I worked throughout all of this and I meet a wonderful OBGYN who would take car of me for many years to come.

At my 12 week scan(which I went alone too) the operator left the room suddenly and I got worried the next thing I know a Dr. has come in and asked me when I see my obgyn again I tell them a months time and they then phone her to see me straight away, as luck would have it she was in the hospital so saw her and then she told me I had what they call a Molar Pregnancy (I went white and was scared by now) it was the very rare kind you could have (An extremely rare version of a partial mole is when twins are conceived but one embryo begins to develop normally while the other is a mole. In these cases, the healthy embryo will very quickly be consumed by the abnormal growth)

In the next 2 weeks after being told that I was rushed to Melbourne to confirm this is what it was and on the ultrasound screen I saw a happy healthy fetus growing......but that was to change.

2 days later I was having surgery to basically save my life and the life of my uterus(my baby had to be aborted to save me) on the operation table I had a thyroid storm which is a result of my molar pregnancy.I NEARLY DIED. and then being told you might need chemotherapy to make sure there is no cells left was hard to hear.

I spend a month in hospital the dr amazed at my recovery and determination. I was spent home at this stage healthy and ready to try again, but nothing goes smoothly and I am rushed back in to hospital again 2 weeks later with a massive bleed and vomiting.

I was to have chemotherapy so I add another dr to my many I have now. He is fantastic, so now every 2 weeks I am having chemotherapy (hospital on Friday afternoon, home on Saturday morning and trying to work on Monday) the only thing that I could do was sit and paint my nails being hooked up to a iv pump, after 3 rounds (6 weeks in total) I was told my numbers were good and that I did not need anymore, my hair thinned out which made me cry.....but the biggest shock was still to come.

1 month after chemo had finished my dr and Obgyn told me that when I had that massive bleed and vomit my body was getting rid of what it need to do......so I may not have need chemo in the first place.

So now have a 12 month wait to be able to try to have a baby while having monthly blood draws my veins run now when they see a needle.

With the help of my obgyn I made it to 9 month and was told I could try again under very close supervision.

So that is the road next time my pregnancies.

Weekly Eye Candy

Not much to explain here do you agree or not:

Give me your suggestions


This week it is..........................

Mr fifty shades himself........Jamie Doran


 If you have not read the fifty shades of grey books then I suggest you read them.....I like them.




Let me know what you think of the trailer for the movie...will you be going to see it....

I will be. Have a great weekend everyone. Xx